Posted by: Dennie | August 26, 2013

Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional

“I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable…but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.  Agatha Christie

I had a crap day today. Nothing went smoothly. Not one single thing.

I’m not going to sit here and expound on everything that irritated, annoyed and downright p’d me off. But a lot of stuff did.

I hate days like today. Especially when they happen on a Monday. It’s not the best way to begin a week.

So what can I do about it? Nothing. Not now. It’s 9:27 pm and the day is over. Do I want to wallow in the garbage that went on? Not really.

I have a choice.

I can chalk it up as a crappy day and let it go at that. I get to start again tomorrow.

Or, I can feel sorry for myself for having a job that sometimes is a pain in the butt. Dealing with idiots. And set myself up for a lousy week ahead.

I can’t control how my days or weeks will go. But I can control my reactions to them.

Tonight I’m grateful to be in a place of acceptance, rather than a place of resistance. It took a lot  to pull myself out of my fowl mood this afternoon and move forward.

But I did.  After work I went to the gym and met the girls who will compete with me in the Warrior Dash . We have only twenty-six days until the event and this afternoon we got out butts kicked by the trainers who are helping us move toward our goals. The workout was tough. It hurt. My friend barfed.

But I left the gym feeling better. Mentally. Which for me is sometimes more important that feeling good physically.

When I got home, my husband had a nice dinner ready for me, as he does every single night, and we ate, and talked. And I felt even better.

I have stuff going on. Some of it is a little scary. And some days the emotional pain and worry  get to me.  Some days I suffer.

But suffering is optional. I need to remember that.

Yesterday, a car in front of us displayed a bumper sticker that announced “The meaning of life is to live it.”

Pain or not, I’m getting on with the business of living my life.

Even if I have a crappy Monday.


  1. Good for you ~ when you feel like you are going through hell, keep walking! Even if it’s only baby steps. Tomorrow is another day! Big hugs to you. ♥

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